Absolute

We can say that there are absolute things and some may not agree with it. I see some things as mere manifestations of their "Absolutes". When we Love, I think we are only Loving in fragments. The only proof of this Absolute theory as of now is Time.

To be Cont.

My God. I was not able to resume this work. It has been a draft since May 22, 2005... Geez.

Anyway, I think I chose Time before because it can be universalized. Everywhere we go, a minute is a minute no matter how relative the length of that minute can differ from individuals to individuals. As Einstein said: "Put your hand on a hot stove for a 5 minutes and it will seem like an hour; sit beside a pretty girl for an hour and it will seem like 5 minutes." But still, 1 minute is still one minute.

Love, together with its variable manifestations have triggered a lot of debates and arguments all over the world. But everything comes back to the individual. We can not universalize love which makes it relative. Why? It is because we have created millions of notions of Love. Love in disciplining your children, love in getting hurt, love in giving and all.

Destiny = Inevitable?

This was taken from a bulletin board post in Friendster: Message: destiny is an event that will inevitably happen in the future.

Or is it not?"

First, people should be informed that everyone is condemned with the freedom to make choices as we are born. These choices are ALWAYS within our responsibilities. Once we neglect these responsibility, we show "bad faith".

Destiny is nothing.

In most religion, we are all born/created in such a way that we can decide for our own. I believe in this because it is true. Everything we do is always a manifestation of our capacities to make choices. As I type now, no one controls me or no one dictates what I am writing. This alone proves that we are capable of acting/choosing within our will.

If there is such a thing as destiny, then we all might as well stop thinking and let "destiny" do its work for us since we are destined to become something or someone that we did not choose.

If there's a wiil, there's a way.

Hypocrites...

You are a hypocrite... we all are.

This is one thing we can not deny. Though there may be levels of hypocrisy, in the end, we are all hypocrites.

Say for one, if I am black, cross-eyed, short, malnourished, limp, and without teeth, do you think anyone will approach me to ask for my name or sit beside me in class? No. There are a few who might. But they, in some cases will show their hypocrisy in other ways.

Why? It is because we really don't see ourselves the way we should. We are inclined towards one end, either to carry our own pedestals or put ourselves down. This paves way to confusions. We don't really see ourselves the way others do. We may be hypocritical, but it isn't all so bad since these things occur in the subconscious.

Just remember that "hypocrite" is a term that does not always denote the negative meaning.

My life and MOST about it.

My life is a big mystery to most people. Walking along the corridors alone most of the time can give you false assumptions on who I really am. I am usually asked: "Aren't you lonely being alone?" Sometimes, it really gets lonely but I can cope up with it. I really like to be alone sometimes. Not because I'm an introvert, but I really get to express myself too much to other people so there are times when I should balance things out and try to be alone. Another thing is that there is really no one who is like me to hang around with. Why? It is because of who I am. My physique intimidates others, my hobbies as well as interests usually contradicts others', my choice of friends are also is different, I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't hangout in bars. When going to malls, I play in Timezone (Tekken), I play strategy games (DotA), I play basketball (Not good, though.), I sometimes want to chat in Starbucks and simply talk with my friends, I am a PC freak, I am regarded as someone who is an O.C. (Obsessive-Compulsive), I workout in the gym (Not too often), I drive my own car, I tend to be very competitive, I am an extrovert, I value my studies (Not too much), I value my philosophy, I love getting things my way.

Who expected me to be "kengkoy"? Who thought I like playing computer games? Who thought I am living my philosophy? Who thought I wanted to be a lawyer someday? Who thought I suck at basketball? Who thought I enjoy the simple things in life? (Sunset *YUCK* cheesy, isn't it?) Who thought I sing in the shower? Who thought I have a blog? Who thought I am online everyday? Who thought I am part of the Political Science Society's executive board? Who thought I enjoy simple conversations? Who thought I love hearing other people's problems and help them solve it? Who thought I don't eat vegetables? Who thought I don't smoke nor drink alcohol? Who thought I've been through relationships? Who would've predicted me?

Barely anyone.

In a group of friends, common interests are one of the most important factors. Who are those of my physique would rather stay in a LAN shop than a bar? Who would rather eat than smoke? Who would stay up late at night in front of the PC rather than binge on alcohol? Who would rather go to the gym than to watch a movie? Who would appreciate girls the way I do? (Hahaha!!!).

A nerd is a nerd and an alcoholic is an alcoholic. The problem is peer groups tend to incline towards one side too much and I am simply too flexible. You won't see a nerd palying basketball, you won't see a happy-go-lucky guy focus on philosophy, you won't see a bar person spending his Friday night playing basketball or PC, you won't see a health buff not eating vegetables, you won't see a person who doesn't care about his health go to the gym, you won't see a mesomorph listening to love songs, and you will never see another Dar.

I am almost everything you won't expect me to be and more!

So basically, you can't make me stay in one peer group (except the "7" DUH :P).

But I never said I am not open to other people. :)

"... you never know what you've got 'til it's gone..."

From the song "Big Yellow Taxi - Counting Crows"
"Don't it always to go, you never know what you've got 'til it's gone..."

Why is this so rampant? Why do things have to be this way?

This is something that is universal. When it comes to Loving, it is one's worst nightmare. Imagine turning someone down for so long and yet he/she perseveres... where in the end gives up and you realize that you've grown fond of him/her... You miss hm/hr, you want to be with hm/hr but he/she already has someone new. All you can do now is to stare. Stare at "the one who got away" when all you had to do was reach out your hand... BEFORE.

What do we want to happen here? To understand why such things happen.

Obviously most of the things I will write here are opinionated. But it would be the best I can come up with for now...

I see it more like a pseudo-Love thing. It tries to emulate the feeling of Love. But on the other hand, it could be true Love. What's hard in talking about Love is that the concept itself is abolute but there are infinite manifestations. Anyway, going back to the topic, we tend to put things that are "easily available" aside. We can't simply change this because it is part of us. For an example, take a guy, who is being treated specially by girl A. He keeps on overlooking her and checks on other women. After getting a girlfriend, girl A gets disappointed and leaves him alone to be happy. After a few weeks, they break up and the guy realizes that he really wants girl A. The sad thing is girl A finally found someone (a best friend) who will Love her.

It is indeed so cliche. I'm sure most of us heard such stories before... But it really doesn't help much in making us better decision-makers. We still tend to overlook people who are really there and long for someone who will exactly fit our standards. This is the primary cause of regret. With the thought of overlooking in mind, we might want to look at the people who are there for us twice before looking at others. This way, we get to give other people a chance and give ourselves also a chance to avoid having regrets.



Masaya nanaman ang aking mundo. Hehe... Love it!!!

Love is something to be celebrated, nurtured, appreciated, you have to madly in love.

Just a thought...

Having a little conversation with a friend made me realize some things. --Good. It's been a while since I last talked with real sense with someone. As usual, the topic revolved around the concept of Love. Though we only exchanged few ideas, I got to review my philosophy on love. I stopped contemplating for some time because of some distractions...

Anyway, here it goes... It all started with this: "love is something to be celebrated, nurtured, appreciated, you have to madly in love...". People oftentimes regard to Love as something that makes them tied, committed, occupied, feel Loved... on the darker side, people regard it as a waste of time, money, energy. Ironically, there are really those who don't even know what Loving or having a relationship is for. Honestly, I was one of them. After a few failed relationships, I came to think: "What is this for? Marriage?! NO WAY!!!". Here's the answer from again, my dear friend ;) "you can't have a relationship if it isn't going anywhere anymore"; "if you aren't learning anything from each other anymore. ". As we Love and engage in a relationship, we grow with it. Being in our teenage years, we surely don't think relationships much like a preparation for marriage. And for those who think this way, you'll know what I mean someday. We Love because we unconsciously want something. But that is not all. Our instincts knows that in our growth as persons, this is a significant module. It is also more like a dry run for the time when we get to choose someone as mature persons. This can't be the preparation for marriage since there is the status of being engaged for that. Anyways, that's all for learning for this day. I shall continue my thoughts before I sleep.

Thanks again Marian :)

On the state of Loving and being inLove

See the 1 sentence summary below.

This started in a Friendster bulletin

INLOVE ka ba or LOVE mo sya? kala ko datipareho lang iba pala!! basahin para maliwanagannaman tayo.It's definitely different when you love someoneand whenyou're inlove with someone"explanation:alin nga ba ang mas malalim?Loving someone or Being in love with someone?marami sa atin ang na confuse tungkol dito.Ikaw ba ay may girlfriend o boyfriend ngayon?Mahal mo ba siya pero parang may isang tao naparang mahalaga din sayo.o may mahal ka na akala mo eh mahal mo nga siyapero meron ka pa rin isang tao na minamahal ngtotoo.Kapag love mo ang isang tao masaya ka..Feeling mo ok na ang lahat...pero ang ma-inlove ka, ang siyang pinakamasakit salahat!Kasi ang mga taong inlove ay ang mga taongngsasakripisyo at ngpaparaya.Teka bakit ka nga ba ngpaparaya?Dahil ba hindi ka niya mahal o dahil hindi kasiguradong ok lang sa kanya?Kung yan ang dahilan mo, walang duda na inlove kanga sa kanya.Kasi iniisip mo kung anong meron kayo sa ngayonang tanging mahalaga at kontento ka na.Pero isipin mo paano kung mawala ang taong yon attalagang hindi na kayo mag-usap at magkita,kaya mo ba?Paano naman kung sayo siya inlove at ibinigay niyaang lahat para sayo pero hindi mo napahalagahanang lahat ng ito kaagad!Paano kung isang araw naguluhan na siya sayo nghusto at maisipang lumayo na lang?Paano kung sa sobrang pagiging iba mo sa kanya dika na niya kausapin at tuldukan na niya ng tuluyankung ano na ang meron kayo?Then bigla mong na realize kung gaano kaimportante sayo ang bawat isa kaya lang wala na siya!Kaya mo ba?Kung hindi ang sagot mo, malinaw na inlove ka nga...Paano naman pag mahal mo lang, kapag mahal molang,alam mo na palagi kang may choice,ayaw mo siyang mawala dahil alam mong wala kangipapalit.Yung masaya ka sa kanya pero sa gabi hindinaman siya ang iniisip mo.Mahal mo siya pero aminado ka sa sarili mo nabalang araw hindi siya ang pakakasalan mo.Mahal mo siya pero ang puso mo hindi lang pra sakanya..Mahal mo at masasaktan ka pagnawala siya peroalm mo na kaya mo yon.Ngayon anong nararamdaman mo ngayon: DO YOU LOVESOMEONE or YOU'RE INLOVE WITH SOMEONE?Isang araw magigising ka na lang na INLOVE ka nanga pero kahit anong gawin mo ay huli na.Dahil maaaring yung taong INLOVE din sayo ay walana pala.Tandaan mo: Masyadong mapaglaro ang puso huwagtayo magpaloko!!!We ﷯learn﷯ to love someone pero minsan lang dumatingsa atin ang pagkakataong ma-inlove!!!Kaya kapag dumating ito, ano ang gagawin mo?Post mo ulit ito at tulungn natin na maliwanagan angiba...This is real nkatulong na ito sa iba,at ito ang naging dahilan para masabi niya angtotoo sa taong inlove siya.

In a nutshell, this argument states that being INLOVE is the true Love and Loving alone is more like the pseudo one.

My point of view:

This is true but the labelling is wrong. I see that Loving is the essential factor and the state of being inLove is just a mere arbitrary feeling.

When you Love somebody, there is a self-sacrifice bundled with it. If you are not willing to sacrifice for someone, then you are Loving with only your cognitive mind. This is not good for when you Love someone, you have to be rational but we should also balance it out by letting our feelings take over. It may sound weird, but if you want to stay with someone, balance yourself. If you always try to be rational, you might appear indifferent. If you act with your emotions, you will appear stupid. This may be a case of "I don't care what other people say..." but you should not let that thought overwhelm you. Use it together with your mind. If you can do something about it, there's no harm in adjusting a little.

On Love

I'm a DARned newbie... Anyway, my first topic will be on Love.

If there's one thing in life I'm sure of, it's that Love is absolute (Capital "L"). You can't love anyone for 75%. The only thing that justifies how we answer "Who do you love more?" is our need to create decisions and we weigh them using another trait or through biases enabling us to choose. We should also consider the different types of loving. (Love for material things, parents, friends and the certain someone).

-From my Friendster account.

Love is indeed one of the best things in life. In the journey we call life, we get to make mistakes. These mistakes are not really bad for in each and every negative circumstances, there are corresponding positive outcomes. I myself failed by choosing incompetently. I was deceived by my own feelings. Given such instances, one might give up on Love already... But I am not giving in... YET. I still trust the saying that "It is better to Love and get hurt rather than not to Love at all." Another thing is that when we Love someone, we should not look for that feeling of being "inlove" for it is a temporary state of mind that is bound to diminish and burn out in time. Love should be something that we are conscious of. You don't get to Love someone if you will never give him/her a chance. We are the ones choosing who to Love so there are no such things like "The Love is gone..." When one says that "The Love is gone", then what he/she really meant was simply "I'm tired of you/I don't want you". If we choose to Love someone, we can literally Love him/her as long as we want.

In short, Love is within our capacities to choose.